Multiparenting Cayen & Cayson

Since it’s Halloween today, it’s appropriate to have some stories on monsters.  Cayson asked very seriously, “Ah Ma, is there monsters ?” Me: No, no monsters. Not in our house. Who told you? C: Ah Pa  Me: No, no monsters. Did you see them? C: No, outside.  Me: Where? C: Hiding. Monster hiding.  Me: Oh no, there’s no monster.  C: See ... there ! (Points to behind me? See!)  I looked around and didn’t see anything.  C: There! I’m starting to get worried. C: See the dog!  Oh, I realise he’s pointing to the soft toy Eevee behind me. Phew! C: Ah Ma, I hear sound.  Me: huh? What sound?  C: sound. Scoring .  Me: No, I don’t hear anything.  C: yes, there’s sound. Ah Yen scoring ..,  Me: Oh , you mean snoring ? No,  I don’t think so (Cayen is in another room ; no way he can hear him from here amongst this white noise) Anyway, moral of the story. Don’t ever tell kids before that there’s monsters in the house or watch too much Youtube on monsters. Else, every day will be Halloween. 

In the last one year, he was noticeably more able to share with his younger brother. In fact, sometimes we marvelled in his ability to repeat so patiently his instructions to Cayson repeatedly.  Perhaps Cayson’s empathy and sharing nature has rubbed off him, or perhaps the big brother responsibility has sank in, but relatively speaking, he had matured as the older brother in the past year (though the small regular fights still happen from time to time). When I aligned from the car each morning, he would ask me to “have a nice day”!  In the past year, he had managed to go for quite a few lessons , mostly non academic like sports, mental arithmetic, executive functioning, music etc. The only academic one was initiated somewhat by himself when he realised that his Chinese is not good.  This year, he showed that he is able sit in a place and do work with focus if he wanted to. His recent teacher review at Little Executive was pretty good as the teacher spoke of his great improvement over t