Multiparenting Cayen & Cayson

We had Cayson Parents Meet Teacher session last Saturday. As usual, it was a breeze as teachers were full of compliments as he was very easy to handle.  Here’s some highlights : He’s very observant. If they play any games where they hide stickers or objects, he usually will find 7-8 out of 10 items in the whole class.  He’s able to empathise. One time when a friend was unhappy, he went over to try to play with her. But she was still angry as another girl friend didn’t want to play with her, so Cayson asked her “why?” He knows how to share very well. When he overheard his friend telling the teacher that he want to play with a toy (that Cayson is holding on to), he went to pass it to his friend automatically without anyone asking.   He’s able to speak in full Chinese sentences, and tell a short story.  He’s able to 举一反三..so he learns very fast and will ask related question. If he learns something today, tomorrow he will be able to relate if a similar thing comes up. If there’

Cayen got into trouble in school twice last week . Last week I tried to talk him out of it by telling him about going to boys’ home or jail if he were to keep on doing that.  Yesterday, I returned to find that he has committed another mischief again. Apparently Cayson then asked him why he’s doing it again. Does he want to go to boys’ school or jail ? If he goes there,  Ah Pa and Ah Ma will be very sad. Cayson will be very sad too as there will be no one to protect him in Pats schoolhouse. He will be happy to share all his toys but there will not be anyone to share with.  With this, Cayen burst into tears. Let’s just hope that this heart to heart prep talk by his younger brother beats the usual punishment and naughty corner. Let’s see.

Ah Po was cooking in the kitchen. Cayson then said to her, ”Ah Po 我 shh shh 了 .. ” Ah Po hurried over to help, only to realise that he has already pulled his pants down , peed and wore his pants back. That’s a real milestone moment! Then two days later i.e. today,  he did the same for pooping as well. Hope he gets toilet trained completely before his third birthday! Will save a lot of diapers and save the Earth! —— We were just lying on the bed talking , he saw his tummy protruding . He patted it and said “fat fat ... like Ah Gong .., cannot squeeze it”. I rolled over laughing.  —— Most Fridays, we would go out of the house for some drinks with friends and usually we won’t bring Cayson but he has since detected this trend. Yesterday, Ah Pa tried to ask him to go buy bread for Cayen , he refused. He told Ah Pa,  “ I love you very much Ah Pa .. can you bring me..?” This is when it’s not clear that we are going out. Needless to say, with this type of emotional blackmail, he got his night