M2 - messing things up & sharing

I didn't hear from the teacher much in the last one week. I guessed it's because she has taken leave as her own kid is starting preschool but silently I had hoped it's because Cayen has been behaving better.

Well, before my silent congratulation to myself, I got this message today... 

Teacher: Hi Mummy, just letting you know that Cayen cried this morning after lunch because I reprimanded him from throwing things in the dustbin. He threw our number cards in the bin without us knowing. He also likes to mess and mix up things like toys and teaching aids in class (even taking out things on display board or peeling things off the wall). So things will either messed up or go missing in the class and he would tell us where he placed them (behind the board, at the back of the bookshelf, or in any other wrong places). The worst part is the bin. 😓 We will be lucky to retrieve the items if we caught him. But unfortunate if Aunty has already cleared the bin. Since he is very smart and knows how to get away with things, we will try to be more strict on him. If he misbehaves, we will deprive him from privileges like playing. He will most likely cry out loud for this but he has to learn his lesson. We will try and hope to reinforce good behaviour. Changes won't happen right away but hope to help in the long run. " 

Me: thanks for update and fully supportive of your actions to be stricter on him . Please feel free to stop him from playing if he remains destructive. Usually , he will not listen at home until he gets his privileges removed as well so please go ahead to discipline him accordingly.

Sorry for all the trouble caused. Actually I also don't understand why he wants to throw things into the bin .. We will try to ask him why too

And in terms of play with other classmates, is he a bit better nowadays in terms of sharing ?

Teacher : I also asked him why he threw it in the bin but he kept quiet for a while and said sorry and told me that he cannot throw things in the bin. Only rubbish. So he actually understands... 

in terms of sharing, he is selective with just a few friends like Ryan and sometimes Charlotte but not all the time.
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Hmm, I would really like to understand his underlying motivation to mess things up and throw things (even toys!) into the dustbin. That's quite strange.

Come to think about it, perhaps it already happened at home just that it's not so obvious and frequent. That day I was at home and couldn't locate my phone, and was hunting for it up and down to no avail. Finally, I asked him if he had taken it, he gleefully whipped it out from a box of toys that he had packed away! 

The closing he is to sharing this Chinese New Year when he met other kids ..




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