Coping with a newborn

During our time at the hospital , ah Pa continue to bring him to school to make up for not being there during bedtime. 

Second night - 1st call 

C: ah pa, come back here, come back to 3105. I need you to be here with me. I miss you. I need you to read story book.
Ah Pa: mama is not well so I need to stay with her. 
C: mama can stay there with baby, you can come back to stay with me.

Second night - 2nd call 
C: I need you to come home to read story book.
Ah Pa: can ah Po read?
C: ah Po can only read one Chinese book. I need to read millions of books. Can you come back to read? 
Ah Pa: no I cannot .. Need to stay with ah Ma 

After the call, Ah Pa said that it's so heartbreaking , maybe he will go home if Cayen calls one more time. Thankfully he didn't so he stayed over at the hospital again. 

Apparently , ah Po and auntie May tried to read to him but he dismissed Ah Po saying that her reading was no good. He also chased Auntie May out of the room and said that her reading was no good - he even locked the door. Then he proceeded to make a big mess of all the books. This dysfunctional behaviour carried on for all four nights that we're away though he did visit us at the hospital every day. 

In school, he had proceeded to announced to the teacher last week that I have given birth and he has a brother now. 

Though it sounded promising, unfortunately he has been exhibiting dysfunctional behaviour these few days like scratching other kids whenever he likes and explaining that he "don't like" them. He's also restless and unable to nap as per normal as well. 

Yesterday at home, he didn't play properly during swimming, didn't eat properly during dinner , didn't ask nicely for things and even threw biscuits onto the floor in a rage. 

Today, the baby cried and someone exclaimed that the baby was awake. Cayen promptly exclaimed, "I don't like baby". Not sure if that represents his innermost thoughts because earlier in the evening, when he was bathing and angry with Ah Pa, he did include Baby in his list of people that he likes (and that excludes Ah Pa for today). But that could well explain his odd behaviour in school. 

To help him cope with all the changes in the house, we will just have to give him extra dose of attention and affection at home and in school.

Behaviour from dinner time onwards was quite good and perhaps  we will be able to help him get back to normal soon. 




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