Multiparenting Cayen & Cayson

Recently, he has been very naughty in school. From snatching to biting, he has done it all. Serious regression.  When his form teacher confronted him and chided him, he retorted that anyway he will not be studying there anymore. His teacher was infuriated and told him that he still need to behave as he's still here.  Honestly we have not even told him about changing school for a month already (though I did told him a few times causally that we will be hanging to a school with playground some time back). I don't know if it's the fact that he knows his school teacher is leaving  year end or that he is leaving year end that he's behaving so badly of late or it's just terrible threes . Whatever it is , I think it will be a trying transition come year end.  And honestly , where did he learn to retort to teacher in such a matter of fact / irreverent manner? We certainly didn't teach him. Goodness!  ---- Yesterday I tried to wear his long pants for him. As usual , he d...

Today I was watching a very good Barbie YouTube video  http://youtu.be/l1vnsqbnAkk   and I decided to show Cayen as there's lots of kids acting in there. At night, I asked Cayen to mimic what he saw in terms of the first role play of a teacher.  Before he did, he asked me to start first. And I did a short speech about brains. Then he asked Ah Pa to say a speech about brains too. Ah Pa started, "Cayen's brain is growing from small to big. It's getting bigger and bigger but Cayen will still snatch , bite and throw things.. So the brain is not working sometimes. Why?"  Cayen exclaimed, "it's loading...wait a while.." After a while, he said ,"it's still charging".  We collapsed in laughter.  ---- When he was tasked to throw some rubbish into the bin, he came back and reported to Ah Po that ,"I smell some oranges" Ah Po was so impressed by his keen sense of smell. She had sneakily ate some oranges in his abs...

How time flies! Cayen is now 3 years old and to celebrate this milestone, we decided to have a short staycation somewhere. At first, we wanted to go to Universal Studios but was fearful that the haze would derail our plans so we switched gears last minute to go to somewhere else with a big indoor facility. That's where I found D'Resort at downtown East which comes with a family room setting. And that came with complimentary access to Wild wild wet for two days and Compilentary Xplorerkid visit. If you are NTUC card member, you also get linkpoints by booking online. But be mindful that any  bookings for fri and sat has to be for a minimum of two nights. I got a bit stuck as I booked Thursday first (as family room was only available then) and tried to book Friday (which is completely not possible be it online or if you call them).  Cayen was very pleased with the underwater world theme and the bunker bed and was constantly climbing the stairs. He was also infatuated wi...

C: 谢谢你阿爸，我喜欢做你的儿子 .. ----- C found my lozenges lying around and he said, "阿妈，为什么你的药没有收好，没有绑起来，被我找到，我很生气！” (and he knocks on my toilet door and kept repeating 我很生气） ----- On the phone with Godma.. C: I put the cake in the box . Do you want to come and eat ?  ------- C: Ah pa, you never reuse, reduce and recycle. Naughty Ah pa !  ------- Ma: do you love me? (No response) Ma: do you love me? (No response) Ma: boohoo.. Mama is sad. You never answer me.  C: I am eating raisin .. I cannot speak .  ------- He's up to his usual mischief again and he tried to overturn his milk bottle on the bed. I immediately swooped the bottle up and thankfully not a drop spilled.  I exclaimed,"幸好妈妈反应快..” Later on , he did it again Ah Pa turned his back. And Ah Pa didn't manage to stop him. Then he exclaimed , "阿爸反应慢！ Ah Pa asked , ”为什么？” C: 阿妈看到就拿走了！

Cayen told me to stop at this monkey figurine at the store as he wanted to take a picture. I flatly refused because he had been disobedient. Instead of walking properly, he kept sliding to the ground and kneeling there with every few steps.  I told him sternly, “remember the motto? You don't listen to me, I don't listen to you. "  He looked quite amused and said laughingly, " what motor? Motor psycho (he meant cycle). Is it motor psycho?"  As usual, I don't know whether to laugh or cry.  But actually I like to devise mottos as they are easier for him to remember and reinforce concepts. For instance, I have this other motto/question..,  "Do you want 10 times yes, 1 time no? Or 10 times no 1 time yes?" He would always looked pained and says "10 times yes and 1 time no" because it means he can't do what he want to do.  Before using this motto, I always emphasize that I am saying yes (since it's so hard to find occasions when it happen...

It's so hard to teach him to share .. I also read some articles that we shouldn't force them to share when they are not ready. Nonetheless, I would teach him the concept and hope that he would get it over time.  Today over dinner, we had some matcha ice cream. He generously shared a few spoonfuls with me and also a spoonful for Godma, which I applauded and encouraged.  After dinner, Godma went to get a milkshake from the gelato store. He saw the display and exclaimed , "whoa!! Ice cream!!"  Then, he looked at her earnestly and said, "just now I shared with you , you know?" Godma was amused and reminded him that she only took one mouthful earlier. Then he repeated himself again,"just now I shared with you you know.." Well son, another thing to learn apart from sharing 分享, it's called 不求回报 (don't expect returns) .