Multiparenting Cayen & Cayson

I was a bit puzzled by teacher's earlier comments that Cayen's not been participating in class. This is quite different from his previous self in the old school where he's quite active in participating, sometimes to the point of being over zealous.  So I asked him why he's not participating in class. He said, " I like Mindchamps more". Hmm.. so it seems he's not over Mindchamps yet. And suddenly it struck me whether all his recent dysfunctional behaviour is a reflection of his innermost feelings about the change. So I texted his old Mindchamps teacher to try confirm my understanding that he was usually active in class participation and she did. In fact, he loved arts and language. I shared with her all the problematic behaviour he has been exhibiting in the last few weeks, and she also confirmed that he hasn't done any of hat in the past before. Perhaps he had missed his old friends or the curriculum.  Poor kid, perhaps he just didn't know how to e...

Ah Pa was on leave on Thursday so he thought since he had time, perhaps he could bring Cayen back to Mindchamps for a visit . Cayen was initially agreeable until he reached the ground floor of the building and wanted to back off thereafter. Still, Ah Pa brought him up since they were already so near. He went up and saw the principal who was surprised but happy to see him. However, Cayen wasn't so eager to proceed further.  Ah Pa brought him into the class and his ex classmates were ecstatic to see him. They in fact started chanting his name in great fanfare. However, Cayen wasn't reciprocating. He in fact tried to hide. He muttered to Ah Pa, "这不是我的学校了，我要走了” He wasn't ready to let his old Chinese teacher hold either. (When I heard this, my heart almost broke for him.) So Ah Pa had no choice but to bring him out of the classroom. However, the kids continued to chant his name so much so that his teacher led the train of kids out to  look for him. Then they sw...

Cayen was playing with my phone, so Godma took over and tried to keep it. He went and pinched her. Godma responded with a swift slap on his hand.  Cayen: I don't like you. I don't love you anymore! You go home, you are not Godma. I don't want you in my house.  Godma: fine , I will not let you go to my house. I will not bring you to bookshop , to parties, buy you gag .. and this is not your house, it is Ah Ma and Ah pa's house. Next time I come, I will ignore you. This sort of exchange repeated for a few times.  And then they all parted ways.  The next day, we had dinner and tried to see if things would patch up.  We put Cayen besides Godma and immediately he said, "I don't want Godma to sit here"  The Cold War continued over dinner with  each sneaking glances occasionally but neither giving in .. One refuses to do without an official apology and the other refusing to give one. Sometimes it's really hard to remember ...