Multiparenting Cayen & Cayson

I was shocked today to receive this message from teacher. This is by far the worst that has happened so far since he bit the teacher on first week of school.  " Dear parents, Cayen peed on Cayden's bag purposely during shower time. I think he got upset with Cayden bacause Laoshi said he was shouting in class and Cayden told him to stop else he will tell the teachers he is shouting. Laoshi was helping the other children to get ready for shower when he saw Cayen happily peeing on Cayden's bag (he was smiling and giggling). He immediately said sorry when he saw Laoshi was going to approach him. He knew what he did was wrong. 😓😓😓 I already washed Cayden's bag but due to the weather, it might not get dry soon. I have to explain to Cayden's parents."  To this , we apologise profusely and volunteered to get a replacement bag but the other parent was understanding enough not to pursue further. We also promised to discipline and counsel him when home.  Teacher agree...

Damn, I really hate the times when the school number flashes on my handphone. It's either because Cayen has fallen sick , is injured or he has been up to no good. Occasionally there's the false alarm like "diapers are running low" Today, when I was in a conference call with my boss, the phone rang again.  I picked up the phone and learned that Cayen had in one morning hollowed at his friends to go away when they try to come near him , clipped one classmate's fingers with the chair, and scratched another classmate till it bled. Apparently, he was highly irritable and was crying with every little thing. I explained to teacher that there wasn't anything special that happened at home just that he might be tired as he woke up too early this morning (he woke up screaming that he want to watch move) and fell asleep soon after.  I asked the teacher if he should be sent home but he was spared the fate since they are supposed to go for rehearsal today.  Once I reached h...

"Humans are born to lie" - me  I'm sure no one taught him but Cayen somehow is starting to tell lies. On more than one instance , he did some naughty things like throw some stuff on the floor or try to do some forbidden activities, but when we questioned him, he would flatly deny it. He wouldn't even bat an eyelid and he was not grinning (sometimes he does when he's purposely teasing). 睁眼说瞎话！  Perhaps it's the fear of being found out or perhaps he knew that he had done something forbidden but I wonder why his instinct is to lie about it ..  Since it's not nurture , I figure it's nature. More work ahead to impart the right values .. 

Cayen has been very naughty in school of late. Yesterday, when the class went to the toilet, he sneakily stayed behind when they all returned to the classroom. When they found him, he was playing with water.  Today, the issue was bigger. There was some paints and stuff in the classroom. So he hid in one corner and squeezed all the tubes of paints onto  the floor and all over himself. When the teachers found him, they also found a big mess of blue all over. Think they had to scrub a lot to get all the stains off. Cayen's uniform was completely soiled too.  I think he was asked to stand in a naughty corner for doing all these. Apparently , his chinese teacher was so crossed with his bad behaviour , she told him she will ignore him. Upon hearing, he burst into tears, crying so uncontrollably that the principal had asked the teacher why she let him cry till it's so bad. The teacher said that he needed to know that he has done wrong, I tend to agree. Cayen te...