Multiparenting Cayen & Cayson

Recently ,  we have signed him up for his first enrichment lesson at Little Executive, a fun way to build up his executive processing skills. We have been to four lessons so far. Up till the second session , he was a little shy to join. But by the third  session, he was up and ready to go though feedback thus far is that while he was engaged in the first one hour , he couldn't quite concentrate thereafter even with movement breaks.  What I like about the lessons so far is that they teach concepts like goal setting to the kids. So for Cayen, his first goal was to "stop running out" of the class and he remembered it. So in the following session, he didn't run out of the  class at all. However, in week 2, he had to set new goals to stop drawing on the table and to stop climbing on the tables after he is done with his assignment. Let's hope we can increase his stamina over time.  On one of these Saturdays, Godma brought him to a party which he enjoyed thorough...

Cayen told me to stop at this monkey figurine at the store as he wanted to take a picture. I flatly refused because he had been disobedient. Instead of walking properly, he kept sliding to the ground and kneeling there with every few steps.  I told him sternly, “remember the motto? You don't listen to me, I don't listen to you. "  He looked quite amused and said laughingly, " what motor? Motor psycho (he meant cycle). Is it motor psycho?"  As usual, I don't know whether to laugh or cry.  But actually I like to devise mottos as they are easier for him to remember and reinforce concepts. For instance, I have this other motto/question..,  "Do you want 10 times yes, 1 time no? Or 10 times no 1 time yes?" He would always looked pained and says "10 times yes and 1 time no" because it means he can't do what he want to do.  Before using this motto, I always emphasize that I am saying yes (since it's so hard to find occasions when it happen...

It's so hard to teach him to share .. I also read some articles that we shouldn't force them to share when they are not ready. Nonetheless, I would teach him the concept and hope that he would get it over time.  Today over dinner, we had some matcha ice cream. He generously shared a few spoonfuls with me and also a spoonful for Godma, which I applauded and encouraged.  After dinner, Godma went to get a milkshake from the gelato store. He saw the display and exclaimed , "whoa!! Ice cream!!"  Then, he looked at her earnestly and said, "just now I shared with you , you know?" Godma was amused and reminded him that she only took one mouthful earlier. Then he repeated himself again,"just now I shared with you you know.." Well son, another thing to learn apart from sharing 分享, it's called 不求回报 (don't expect returns) .