Multiparenting Cayen & Cayson

This is the process after implementing the rewards chart to date :  Day 1 (Tue): he seemed excited , he talked a lot about the dos and don'ts (he even asked Ah Po to cook broccoli , peas and carrot every day so he can earn the veggie stars. However, it's all talk but no action Day 2 and 3: still a slow start but starting to earn the peeing and pooing stars  Day 4: brought him out for dinner to change the diet and hope he's more inspired to eat on his own.  And it succeeded. We had a smooth and fuss free meal of soup , garlic bread, pork chop and fries. Day 5: Ah Pa brought him to universal studio but he didn't understand why he's going so soon because that was supposed to be the reward after earning 30 stars. Well, that's the reason why I was dissuading Ah Pa from choosing that place but Ah Pa wanted to spend some quality time with him and so they went. Good thing was that he was on his best behaviour the whole day. Ate well and did the toilet thing well too.  D...

Godma Shu Hsien brought Cayen out for an outing a few weeks back. This is a place where he can learn about insects and explore freely in a safe environment without adults screaming "no" at every corner . Best of all, everything is indoors and air conditioned - great perk for heat fearing adult companions.  A little bit of a hidden paradise. Will go again for sure. Recommended ! http://www.playeum.com

Celebrating Julian's birthday on National Day at Kidstop , at the Science Centre. Julian loved the Japanese rare cheesecake .. Pity I didn't capture it on video.   

Time flies and it's one and a half month into my maternity leave. What's keeping me really busy is not the younger old but the older one.  While he has grown a lot more receptive to his younger brother , he has been regressing on other fronts in terms of behaviour i.e. Scratching and biting when things don't go his way or saying "I don't like you", "go away" etc.  Yesterday, the emo Cayen suddenly told Ah Po that he felt that Auntie May (our helper) didn't like him anymore, because she didn't play with him anymore. Well the truth is that May has been helping with the baby the last two weeks so didn't have so much time to play with him. In any case, just like how he treated me, he would scratch her or tell her to go home /go back to Philippines when he didn't get his way. Hence, we told him that he needs to be nicer to her and stop saying those hurtful words else she would stay away from him. Not sure if he has absorbed that but we wer...

Today Ah Pa brought Cayen to SEA aquarium again per Cayen's request. Today, since there's no Easter egg hunt or other distractions, his attention was all on the fishes. In fact, he spoke to them quite a bit. ”hello fish, are you hungry? What do you want to eat?.... Bla bla" After walking for a while, both of them  sat on the floor and had small picnics at two pit stops , enjoying their snacks over a magnificent view.  He was quite taken with the fishes today and in fact asked to stay longer. He said, "here is so nice and so comfortable. I want to stay here forever. " Thereafter, he said something to the effect that He knew he would fall asleep soon but he requested not to go home so that when he woke up, he would still be amongst the fishes.  As they adjourned for lunch, they passed by this candy shop and Cayen asked him what that was. Ah Pa told him that it's the Candy Empire shop.  After they passed by the shop, Cayen suddenly remarked that...

Before the arrival of the baby, I had anticipated that his dysfunctional behaviour will re-emerge and (indeed it did) - he would scratch and bite if he doesn't get his way. I think it's because he doesn't know how to manage his emotions very well as yet, so I figure using stories will help since he loves story telling.  Hence, I had gone to Amazon to buy some books that would teach him these concepts since we might not be present when he gets into such conflicts with other kids in school. Also, he's more receptive and attentive during bedtime reading so I suppose those are our best chance to reinforce those concepts instead of pure nagging.  Hence, I had bought a bunch of   books from Amazon and have read half of it so far - he was quite taken with all of them and even asked me why I didn't buy the whole series that he saw on the back of the book i.e. Germs are not for sharing , Tails are not for pulling. I pretended to lament that there's no need to buy since h...