Act of Terror !

I was shocked today to receive this message from teacher. This is by far the worst that has happened so far since he bit the teacher on first week of school. 

" Dear parents, Cayen peed on Cayden's bag purposely during shower time. I think he got upset with Cayden bacause Laoshi said he was shouting in class and Cayden told him to stop else he will tell the teachers he is shouting. Laoshi was helping the other children to get ready for shower when he saw Cayen happily peeing on Cayden's bag (he was smiling and giggling). He immediately said sorry when he saw Laoshi was going to approach him. He knew what he did was wrong. 😓😓😓 I already washed Cayden's bag but due to the weather, it might not get dry soon. I have to explain to Cayden's parents." 

To this , we apologise profusely and volunteered to get a replacement bag but the other parent was understanding enough not to pursue further. We also promised to discipline and counsel him when home. 

Teacher agreed, "Hi Daddy, yes please kindly talk to him. We are also puzzled by his behaviour. He seems to know the right from wrong but he can't control himself from doing the wrong things. I told him I won't trust him anymore if he cannot keep his promise. He will stay beside me and he won't be able to play. But the problem is, he will resent sitting down but after a while he seems to be okay just sitting down and watching his friends play. So it's quite difficult to see which kind of discipline will work on him. 😁" 

I tried to share what I do at home just for brainstorming's sake, "Thanks Ms Irish and sorry for all the trouble. He generally don't like his rewards stickers to be taken away from him or if he's forcefully put in a "naughty corner " for bad behaviour Or suspension of privileges like watching cartoon etc.." 

Teacher added, "Yes, we do that too. If he misbehaves, we will stop him from playing right away. He will sit on a chair. He will protest at first but after a while, he seems comfortable sitting on a chair. He doesn't mind that his friends are playing while he is alone and watching only. It's like he is always wants attention but in the wrong way. We are trying to give him more attention when he behaves well and ignore his misbehaviour but it's difficult to ignore especially if it's really unacceptable. We are trying our best, hopefully we will be able to help him have that self control and discipline. It may take a while and lots of patience. 😂" 


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